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Some tips for dealing with arguments in long distance relationships.

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Everyone argues…

This blog post is all about the joys of arguments and dealing with them whilst in long distance relationships. Every couple in the world has arguments big or small we all go through them. The difficultly with being long distance and having arguments is how to carry them out. Do you save up all your frustrations and talk them out when you’re together (potentially ruining the only time you’ve seen each other in weeks), or do you carry out these arguments online through the phone and social media. I’ve always been a believer that you shouldn’t air your dirty laundry in public for all to see, not only does no one else really care but it’s also not healthy. Having said that when we’re young and angry we make mistakes and sometimes you can’t help but send that petty indirect tweet just to get it off your chest. I’m not going to make out that I’m the best at dealing with arguments because side note I’m not that great but in this post, I’m going to attempt to help you with some tips on having arguments in long distance relationships.

The tips:

  1. Don’t bottle it up.
    It’s important in long distance relationships to communicate and if one of you has a problem or an issue the worst possible thing to do is to hold on to those feelings and emotions until you see each other next. Although it’s easier to talk things through face to face it can cause so many problems for long distance you don’t want to spend the short time you have together arguing about things. Instead however hard it might be you need to communicate. I do suggest phoning or facetiming rather than texting because text messages can be taken in different ways to what the other person means, at least when you’re on the phone you can hear their tone of voice or see their face on facetime.
  2. Wait before kicking off.
    This is an important one. When you’re upset or angry about something in long distance relationships you need to have self-restraint. Going into an argument with anyone full guns blazing is never going to work whether you’re in the same city or not. Before sending that angry message or starting an argument just take ten minutes to calm down and think about it, ask yourself is this worth an argument is it something small that probably won’t matter tomorrow. By all means write out the text message and read it back to yourself do you actually think this is a big deal or are you making it a big deal? This just helps you focus on the bigger picture and more important things.
  3. Don’t get petty.
    I know how tempting it is to write a petty text or tweet and we’re all guilty of it (especially me) but trust it’s not worth it. Half the time your significant other won’t even see it and you’ll just end up looking silly. I know it can be an easy way to vent your feelings without starting an argument with someone but write it down in a book instead, it has the same affect with less hassle.
  4. Don’t air your arguments out on social media.
    This one goes along with the one above quite nicely. Although being long distance means you have less opportunity to talk face to face about things that are upsetting you or annoying you, your business has nothing to do with anyone else. So don’t post about it!
  5. Give each other space.
    Finally it’s important to let each other breath when having an argument. Giving one another spaces allows for you to sit down and re-evaluate the situation. It can save the argument being worst if you let each other have time.

I hope these helped a little and that you enjoyed a slightly different blog post from me than normal.
Char. ♥

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